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Inspirational Women | 2018

In Vogue’s list of Influential Women 2018, they asked: What does power look like? A question, they acknowledge, is becoming all the more difficult to answer. Power is no longer just a white, middle-class male sitting in the cabinet making big decisions. The face of power and influence has changed, and it has become about a lot more than simply governing, but also about inspiring, starting conversations and initiating change. Power is being redefined, and with it so is the world around us.  

This year, once again, hundreds of women all around the world have inspired me and made me proud to be a woman – whether it be celebrity activists, movers and shakers, or simply women I encounter on a day-to-day basis in my life whose attitude and spirit have motivated me to become a better version of my self. Here are just a few.

Jameela Jamil 

As I recently declared on Twitter, my new life motto is WWJD (What would Jameela do?). Her relentless battle again the impossible beauty standards placed upon women has acted as a reminder that I am enough, just as I am. As well as calling out BS detox diets and the negative consequences of airbrushing, Jamil also set up the iWeigh movement, which I urge you to follow if you don’t already. The movement acts as a reminder that we are all a lot more than how we look and encourages us to think less about what we see in the mirror and more about our values, achievements and qualities beyond this.

A wonderful, witty woman with an incredibly powerful message!

FORKING brilliant.

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The Campaigners in the Irish Abortion Vote

Less a single woman and more a group of incredible inspiring women (and men), who stood up for the women in Ireland to have rights over their bodies. The vote was a huge leap forward for women in Ireland and symbolised the power of activism and fighting for what you believe to be right.

An incredible moment in history that represents progression and changing national attitudes – bravo Ireland.

What an inspiration.

Orla Doherty 

TV producer and environmentalist, Orla Doherty and her team, have made waves this year, raising awareness of the damage being done to our oceans by our excessive use of plastics.

Over 10 million people watched the final episode of the BBC’s Blue Planet that Doherty produced, and the message has certainly resulted in more action – it certainly impacted my behaviour and for that, we all have to thank Doherty.

Dua Lipa 

At only 22 years years old, Dua Lipa became the most streamed female artist in Britain and made history when she became the first woman to received 5 Brit nominations in one night.

Why is she having such a huge impact on the music industry? 

There are many reasons for her success, but for me, her music goes beyond simply a good track to dance to. New Rules has a far deeper, cultural message about female sexual empowerment that females everywhere found themselves relating to – not to mention it has hit over 1 billion views on YouTube. To find out more about the songwriter Emily Warren and how she came about writing New Rules, check out Elite’s Daily article here.

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Diane Shippey

A name you probably do not recognise, but a woman that inspires me every single day – my Mother. I have written a lot about this wonderful woman here on the blog (you can read more about her here). She has taught me a hell of a lot of the past 22 years, and this year her drive, determination and dedication to what she believes in, has astonished me.

Putting her beliefs and morals before financial gain, she has gone on to start her own little business – working incredibly hard and teaching me that no one is any better than anyone else and if you have something you believe it, then you bloody well fight for it.

Priyanka Joshi 

Another name you might not have heard of, but you definitely should have, is Priyanka Joshi! As only 29 years old, Joshi is a research fellow at the University of Cambridge, offering cutting-edge Alzheimer’s research, looking into drug-like molecules to target the causes of degenerative brain diseases.

This year, dementia has left a huge hole in our family and we are certainly not alone. Dementia is now the leading cause of death for women in England and Wales and so her work in the field is crucial – now more than ever.

In the words of Jameela Jamil, I am a feminist-in-progress, constantly learning and trying to become a more informed human being. I am far from perfect but these women have all helped me on my journey, and for that I thank them. In my research for this post, I found myself in total awe of the incredible work women have been doing this year that I haven’t heard about and sadly I couldn’t write about every single one of them here. I urge you to take a look at some of these lists of Inspiration Women and read their stories.

Here are some of my favourites:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-46225037

https://www.vogue.co.uk/article/vogue-25-the-women-shaping-2018

From Pankhurst to Pink: 100 of the most inspiring women from the last 100 years

Which women have inspired you this year? Let me know in the comments down below or over on my latest Instagram post. 

Jamie x 

‘Mind The Gap’ | Why We Need To Close The Orgasm Gap.

.Happy Tuesday guys and gals. As you know, here on my blog I do not shy away from awkward or taboo topics. We talk about vaginas, periods, libido – anything and everything! Anyway, today I wanted to talk about another topic that does not receive enough attention – The Orgasm Gap. What is the orgasm gap I hear you ask? Well, let’s look to the 2009 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour shall we? In 2009 the survey revealed 
 that men are more likely to orgasm than women – tell us something we don’t know!
Statistics have varied a lot, with one study revealing that 91 percent of men and only 39 percent of women always or usually orgasm during sexual encounters. Others have been a little more optimistic but the long and short of it is straight women are not having as many orgasms as they should. Not only is there a gap in how often women are having orgasms but there is also a huge gap between male perceptions and reality (again, this is no surprise really is it?). Eighty-five percent of men said their partners in their recent sexual encounter had reached climax – a far higher than the percentage of women who said they orgasmed. Awkward.
 
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So why is it happening and what can we do about it? 
The female orgasm. Type it into google and you will see 100’s of articles trying to justify why the gap exists. The female orgasm is an elusive phenomena that is difficult to achieve – don’t worry lads, it’s not your fault. Hmm, really?  It’s easy to fob it off as a near impossible task for men, however, one study revealed that when masturbating, 95 percent of women reach orgasm easily and within minutes. Looks like you’re going to have to up your game boys. The orgasm is not elusive for a woman when she is on her own. Nor is it elusive when two women are together as research has shown that lesbians are more likely to orgasm that heterosexual women, with up to 86 percent of lesbian women reporting orgasms during every sexual encounter. So why are heterosexual women missing out? 

When I think about the pretty pathetic sex education that was provided to me at school, it really does not surprise me that the orgasm gap exists. Back in the day (when I say ‘the day’, I mean pre-Enlightenment days – yes, I did a history degree) it was believed that for a child to be conceived both the man and the woman had to reach their climax. Now I sadly don’t have any statistics for early modern female orgasms, but I can imagine they were a lot higher than now. In our current education system, pleasure takes a back seat, especially for the woman. Sex education completely ignores the clitoris, teaching only about women’s internal organs. We therefore have to look elsewhere for sex education and we all now that these other sources are not exactly the most accurate and would definitely not be AQA approved.

It is therefore assumed that a couple of thrusts and a woman will be on cloud nine, which is really not the case. You can’t just shove a penis in there and hope for the best. The is an incredible short sighted approach to intercourse. The mentality of ‘scoring’ when you have sexual intercourse gives to false idea that intercourse is the best way for both parties to be pleasured. This is so far from the truth. Remember that scene in FRIENDS where Monica teaches Chandler about the 7 (yep, 7!) pleasure points on a woman? Slow and steady wins the race guys. Learn from Monica, she knows what she’s talking about. 

The main problem is that the conversation is deemed as taboo, however, it is such an important conversation to have and we need to begin closing the gap. Female masturbation is not discussed nearly as openly as male masturbation. Yes, we have seen an increase in women openly talking about their sexual needs in recent years but the truth it, female masturbation is still something that is frowned up. We don’t talk about it and therefore it follows that we do not have to see it as important. By not having the conversation we are undermining the female need for pleasure.
Closing the orgasm gap is important for equal access to pleasure. Sexual pleasure is about more than having an orgasm, it is a empowering symbol of appreciation and respect and allows for better communication. The lack of education is merely reinforcing gender stereotypes about female passivity and it is not healthy. We therefore need to close the orgasm gap, not only for equality in the bedroom but equality in all aspects of life. 
Jamie x