I turn 22 tomorrow. Part of me is excited because, you know, presents but the other part of my wishes everything would just SLOW DOWN. The little 8 year old inside me still can’t quite comprehend that she’s an adult now, going to work and renting her own little house. When I first moved in I wasn’t ready for it, but I had no choice but to learn and learn FAST. That has often been the case with most of the lessons I have learnt throughout my 22 years on this earth. Life comes at you quickly and sometimes you just have to go with it and hope for the best. 

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Started from the bottom…

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Now we’re here.

  1. Always have a sanitary towel in your bag. You never know when mother nature is going to come-a-calling and you should always be prepared. After a few accidents and more than a few girls asking me if I had one spare in bathrooms, I learnt my lesson.
  2. You’re not going to ‘like’ everyone, but that doesn’t mean you cannot get along. Back in year 8 if I didn’t like someone they were automatically my worst enemy. As I have grown up I have learnt that I don’t have to ‘like’ someone to get on with them. It doesn’t mean they are bad people or that we have to be enemies, it might just mean we’re different and that’s okay – you’re not going to like everyone.
  3. Not everyone is going to like you. Following on from number 2, not everyone is going to like you and guess what? That’s okay too.
  4. Bitching says more about you than it does them. When I was younger everyone bitched about everyone. It was cruel and unnecessary. I learnt overtime that bitching about people said more about me than it did them. If you have a problem with someone the only way to resolve it is to speak to them.
  5. Pee after sex. This came as a shock to me but yes, pee after sex. Nobody wants a water infection.
  6. Relationships should be 50/50. You should never have to bleed yourself dry to maintain a relationship. Relationships should be an equal balance of give and take.
  7. Always have a bottle of water in your bag. Hydration really is key! Plus, bottled water is expensive and bad for the environment.
  8. Water looks a lot like vodka and lemonade – just keep your mouth shut. If you don’t want another drink just order tap water. Trust me, no one will notice and you’ll thank yourself for it the next day.
  9. Endings are a part of life. Endings aren’t always nice but they are a part of life and symbolise growth and change.
  10. There is no shame in vulnerability. I used to think that in order to get anywhere in life I had to be hard faced and emotionless. Remember all the Facebook quotes glorifying this? Turns out, there is no shame in vulnerability. In fact, I have grown up to find it an endearing quality in others. Without vulnerability I found that life was very lonely.
  11. Sex and self respect do not correlate. When I was younger I firmly believed that sex and self respect went hand in hand but overtime I have learnt that that is not the case. People have both self respect and sex – the two do not correlate. If they are happy and safe then it really doesn’t matter how many sexual partners an individual chooses to have.
  12. You’re going to need anti-ageing creams sooner than you thought. Okay so I haven’t got wrinkles and I’m not greying just yet BUT there is no harm in erring on the side of caution. I have recently brought myself an anti-ageing eye cream to help with early signs of ageing. Kind of expected that to be a purchase I made closer to my 40’s but there you go…
  13. Coffee is cheaper if you just make it at home. Yes I know this is obvious but honestly you will save SO much money if you cut down on your coffee shop habit and just make it at home.
  14. The laundry is not going to wash itself. Turns out it was Mum who did it! Who knew?
  15. You are your own priority. I spent a long time trying to be a people pleaser and it got me nowhere. The more I tried it seemed the less I was liked. I learnt that your happiness should be your first priority. The more I put me first, the more I found people like me who loved and supported me for who I am.
  16. Things hardly ever go to plan. Literally EVER. You really have just got to roll with every new opportunity. As a self confessed ‘planner’ this came as a shock to the system but hey, that’s life for you!
  17. Not everyone has the same heart as you. Sometimes people can be cruel and work from a different moral compass to yourself. Take lessons from these people should you come across them and remove them from your life. Do not sacrifice your inner peace for anyone.
  18. Mum knows best. It didn’t take me long to learn this but it did take me a long time to accept it. Mum’s really are always right. My Mum knows me better than I know myself and her advice always come from a place of selfless love.
  19. You don’t owe ‘looking pretty’ to anyone. Don’t want to wear make up? Don’t. Can’t be bothered to wash your hair? No worries. It took me a long time to learn this but you don’t have to ‘look pretty’. You do not owe being ‘visually appealing’ to someone – you are worth so much more than that.
  20. Heartbreak hurts but you get over it. I have had my heart broken. One time I never thought I would EVER get over it but I did. I still think about that person from time to time but it is usually with fondness. Heartbreak is a part of life. It sucks but you’re going to be fine.
  21. Dry shampoo is a gift from the gods. I thank the gods for the day dry shampoo was invented. Honestly the day I learnt I did not have to wash my hair every single day was a wonderful one.
  22. You’re never alone, even if you feel like it. There are times when I have felt very lonely but I have learnt that I am never alone. In a world where anyone is just a phone call away and friendships with your online pals are as real as friendships with those you have known in person you really are never alone. I promise.

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My last celebration living at home. 

I hope I never lose the little 8 year old inside of me who still jumps in puddles and will go out of her way to do the hop scotch on her route home from work. I might be an adult but I always want to be a child at heart. I always want to keep hold of that youthful, carefree fun whether I’m 22 or 82. Happy Birthday to me. 

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“We never really grow up, we only learn how to act in public’ – Bryan White.

Jamie x 

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I finished exams today!! So it seemed like an appropriate time to do a post on alcohol. Alcohol and training is a bit of a taboo topic. You’ve probably heard before that alcohol is just empty calories, which is true, but that doesn’t mean you have to say goodbye to happy hour forever. For me, alcohol was not worth the negative impact it was having on me bother physically and mentally and so I made the decision to no longer drink. My priorities were my mental and physical health. This doesn’t mean I think everyone should give up alcohol. Having a drink can be fun and sociable and if you enjoy a night out then that’s okay. It is important, however, that it is done in moderation. There are obviously lots of reasons why this is the case, but let’s talk about it in relation to training.

Alcohol doesn’t fill you up but alcohol is very calorific! Alcohol works out almost as high as fats but doesn’t offer your body the same benefits as fat does in your diet (it basically lacks nutritional value) and so just speeds up fat storage. If a drink is what you choose to use your calories/macros on, that is fine but only as a one off. Your body doesn’t need alcohol (or some cheesy chips on the way home… I am totally guilty!) but your body does need macro and micronutrients so alcohol should not act as a replacement for such things.

Beyond the calories, alcohol can have a huge impact on your training performance. Out bodies absorb alcohol really quickly but it takes a long time to metabolise, which means it will still be impacting your insides even after the big night. This means decreased strength, dehydration and you’ll probably be knackered. This really does mea you have to prioritise. If a big night out is more important that progress then that is absolutely fine and completely personal choice, but you do need to consider the fact it will have an impact and so sacrifices will have to be made somewhere.

It is also important to consider mental health when talking about alcohol consumption. For a sufferer of anxiety and low moods, alcohol just exaggerated these problems and really wasn’t worth it. Not only did this have an impact on my training but also my general mindset, which can be extremely detrimental. Of course, not everyone will suffer from these side effects from alcohol, but, if you do, there is no shame is making the decision not to drink. I have found since giving up alcohol, I have still being able to go out and have a good time without having to deal with the mental and physical aftermath the next day. Deciding not to drink and being a University student can be difficult, particularly when you have drank before as many people will not understand or support your decision, but do not feel pressured to have a drink. Think of all the money you’d save on the taxi home (not the mention the drinks!).

Training and alcohol don’t have to be worst enemies but they are also never going to be the best of friends. People train and drink alcohol, the two do not have to be mutually exclusive and you have to be realistic. If you like the odd glass of wine ever so often then that is absolutely fine. If you want to go out to a club for a friends birthday, that is also absolutely fine. Just consider your priorities and, just as with food, don’t let yourself feel guilty if you happen to make the most of happy hour.

If you’re interested in finding out more about alcohol and what you should be drinking, you can take a look at the site. Fitness on Toast also nicely breaks down the calories of some of the most popular drinks so you can take a look here if you want to plan your night in advance. 

Jamie x

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