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Hey guys! Something a little bit different for you today (and on a Wednesday! 3 posts in one week? Christmas came early this year, ey?) I am so honoured to have been nominated by the lovely Emily for the Sunshine Blogger Award! She is an incredible blogger who has been such an inspiration to me and I am so glad to have her as one of my blogging friends. I would seriously recommend checking out her blog as she is a fantastic writer with such a big heart. I wish her all of the success in world. 

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This award is all about bringing positivity to the blogging community, and inspiring others to do the same. As it is voted for by other bloggers, there are a few rules that you have to stick to (not being a party pooper guys – they’re fun rules!).

RULES:

Thank the blogger who nominated you and link their blog so others can find them.
Answer the 11 questions which the blogger who nominated you asked.
Nominate 11 bloggers and ask them 11 different questions.
List the rules and display the Sunshine blogger award logo in your post and/or on your blog site.

Okay, let’s get started!

EMILY’S 11 QUESTIONS:

Why did you pick the blog name that you did?

So my blog is called jamieleejenkins.com (not very imaginative, I know). No surprises here but it’s called that because, well… that’s my name. I toyed with the idea of having a more exciting name but I am the most indecisive person in the entire universe and I couldn’t find something that I thought summed up my little corner of the internet. I decided therefore that the best option was to let my Mum decide and go for my name – what could possibly sum me up better? 

Name a blog that inspires you.

Without a doubt ruthinrevolt.com! She is such a ray of sunshine and I am so inspired by how hard she works. Ruth in a fantastic writer and her content is always so motivational. I would serious recommend checking her out as she deserves all the love and support in the world.

What is your favourite aspect of your blog?

I love having my own little space on the internet that’s mine. Writing has always been an absolute passion of mine but I used to really struggle with technical stuff. With a lot of hard work, I managed to pick up loads of new skills and I am incredible proud of how I have managed to develop my little blog. It’s never been about stats for me, but hearing how my work has helped my readers is so motivational and makes all the hard work worth while. I adore my blog and everyone I have had the pleasure of coming across through it.

Best blogging tip?

Everyone says it but it is so so true – Be authentic and love what you do.

When you love your work it really does shine through in the writing and it is such a great thing to see. I guess from this I would also say give yourself a break if you need it. There is no shame in having down time and no content is better than forced content. 

If you were only able to watch one film for the rest of your life, what film would you choose and why?

I am going to go with Forrest Gump. I think it is such a beautiful film that has me laughing and crying in the same scene. I adore the story line and think the acting is incredible. It has some really important lessons of love, life and loss. As Forrest said, ‘life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get’.

Where do you write the majority of your blog posts?

I’d love to say something cool like in a coffee shop in central London but that would be a massive lie. I do love writing out and about as it gives me some great inspiration and makes me feel like a proper little professional but the majority of the time I write sat at my desk at home whilst cuddling my puppies.

What is your favourite item that you own?

This was a really hard one but I am going to go with my MacBook. I honestly could not be without it. It helps so much when it comes to blogging and keeping in touch with the community and it is where I watch most of my TV (I’m a bit of a Netflix addict). I was torn between this and my phone but the MacBook won because, well… it’s rose gold. 

You are stranded on a desert island, but have your three favourite books with you – what are they?

I have recently got back into reading after my degree so this is such a perfect question! I am going to do with Angels and Demons by Dan Brown because I could read this 1000 times and still find something new in it. I think he is such a fantastic author. Next, I would go for The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson for similar reasons. I have only recently read this book but I think it is fantastic – definitely in my top 3. Finally, I would go for Harry Potter and The Deathly Hallows by J. K. Rowling (one had to be Harry Potter, right?). I chose this one because it is one of my favourite books in the series and has one of my favourite chapters ever written in it – The Prince’s Tale.

Fruits or vegetables?

Fruits! I love fruit and vegetables but I have to give this one to fruit. I make a delicious dark cherry and chocolate protein smoothie for my post-workout that I am truly obsessed with. As good as veggies are I just couldn’t say goodbye…

What is the main aim of your blog?

I want to make people smile. 

The main aim for me was to help others through my writing and make them smile. Life can get pretty tough sometimes and I wanted my little corner of the internet to be a place where readers could gain knowledge, make friends and have a breather.

Any goals for the rest of 2018? List them below, and let us help you reach them. 

Yes, yes, yes! 

  1. I want to smash my first ever job! I start next week (eek!)
  2. I would love to hit 5000 blog views and Twitter follows, which may be optimistic but let’s see.
  3. Continue with my mental and physical health journey and see out 2018 the happiest yet.
  4. Book a holiday for next summer with my savings from my job.
  5. Maybe earn a little bit of money from my blog.

Watch this space guys! 

My 11 Questions:

  1. Who is your biggest inspiration in the blogging world?
  2. When you’re feeling down what is one thing that is guaranteed to make you smile?
  3. Summer or Winter? Why?
  4. What are 3 things you have learnt from blogging?
  5. What are your 3 favourite things about yourself?
  6. Are you a dog person or a cat person?
  7. What is your best childhood memory?
  8. If you were hosting a dinner party and could invite 5 people, dead or alive, who would you invite?
  9. And what would you cook for them?
  10. What would your top tip be for practising self love?
  11. What are your goals for the rest of 2018 and how can we help you smash them?

I AM NOMINATING: Charlene, Cara, Vikki, Britt, Lupe, Samantha, Dalindcy, Rachael, Jade, Daniela, Alys

I have chosen then 11 bloggers because I adore their content and have had the pleasure of meeting them either online or in the big wide world and I think they are absolute rays of sunshine. I cannot wait to see the nominee’s responses!

Thank you so much for reading! Until next time. 

Jamie x 

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Hey guys and happy Tuesday!

So today I thought I would do a blog post that has been requested a lot recently. As you will know if you follow me on other forms of social media, I have recently just secured a job as content executive for the fitness and nutrition section of Gymshark Central. This means not only will you be seeing my stuff here but I will also be working my magic over on the Gymshark blog – so make sure you check that out! Anyway, this blog post is not about my new job, (don’t worry, that is on it’s way) rather this is about how I got there and the lessons I learnt along the way.

I have interned a fair bit. As someone who wants to go into the media and journalism industry, internships are an essential part of the journey. They’re hard to get and even harder to manage the feeling of being a small fish in a massive pond and make sure you stand out when you get there. I have definitely taken a lot from each one of my internships. All had their ups and downs and I made a lot of mistakes along the way so I thought I would share some of the lessons I have learnt and what I wish I would have known before I started. This is going to be a long one so get yourself a cuppa and get comfy – you could be here a while.

I write this having secured a job, but my life as a ‘newbie’ is certainly not over. This brings me on to my first lesson. You are never too good to learn new things and continue to grow your skills. It is likely that your internship is going to be unpaid, or be paid a very small amount that will struggle to buy you a days worth of food in central London (can you tell I am speaking from experience?). It is also likely that you’re not going to walk in on your first day and be given a huge feature piece to write – life is just not that kind. Try new things and never think you are above anything. Offer to make tea and coffee, offer to tidy the cupboard – make yourself useful. Be willing to learn, be willing to rough it, be willing to stay in hostels with 6 strangers because that’s all you can afford. Just be willing. It will be off.

As well as being willing, it is also important to be active and useful. It is likely the company you are working for have interns in all the time. If you don’t show them that you are an active and useful person to have around, chances are you won’t be around for long. It’s brutal, I know, and something that is very difficult when you’re nervous (which it is very normal to be). An important balance to strike is between being inquisitive and being useful. It is easy to get carried away asking questions that you become more trouble than you’re worth. Be inquisitive about the company and people you are working with but remember that they have a job to do. You want to be useful but not annoying.

My top tips for ensuring you demonstrate your uses within the company and make a lasting impression are as follows:

  1. Find Jobs: There will always be something that needs doing but these things are not always obvious. If you’re totally lost, ask if you can get anyone a cup of coffee and do some research. At Women’s Health, there were usually things I could be getting on with, but if not I went through the magazines and started working on research for reoccurring features. I gathered loads of journal articles and drafted articles. Yep, they all got changed but I made an effort and wasn’t just sat twiddling my thumbs.
  2. Talk to people: Chances are you’re going to be asked to do a fair few menial tasks so you might as well make the most of them. If you’re making coffee chat to people in the kitchen. If you’re running errands make sure you chat to people in the lift or on reception. If you use every opportunity to talk to new people and expand your network then no task is menial.
  3. Everyone loves a compliment: Know your audience and compliment them. Everyone likes to be liked and a small compliment can go a long way. I like to make sure I know the people I am going to be working with, what they have done and what they’re working on at the time. ‘Oh, I loved that article you wrote on super foods last month, it was a great read!’ – you’ve shown you know about their work and they feel good about themselves. Win, win.
  4. Know what you want from a conversation: You’ll probably know this if you have ever networked. The chances are your time with an individual is brief so know what you want to get from the conversation and make sure you get it.
  5. Follow up: Another networking tip that is also crucial after you’ve finished your internship – follow up! Send an email to say thank you or pitch some ideas. I would recommend doing this within 2 days but just do what feels best.

Lastly, it is important to know your worth. You know your skills and your ability but they don’t. Work hard and show them what you’ve got but never been made to feel worthless. Yes, make the coffee and clean up, it is part of interning. I learnt early on that most people you work for will be decent and will not give you a job they wouldn’t or they haven’t had to do in the past but you also always deserve to be treated with respect. You’re giving your time for free and you’re working hard. Interning can be super scary and you should be made to feel welcome and valued. If you’re being made to feel rubbish and you don’t feel like you’re getting what you need from the experience, I would suggest you start by addressing this with the person you are working closest to. It doesn’t have to be a rude or aggressive conversation but you might find they didn’t realise they were making you feel that way and it solves the issue. If not, you have a decision to make – this is when you need to know your worth.

Best of luck if you have an internship coming up or are in the process of applying- you’re going to absolutely smash it. If you have any more questions let me know in the comments below but for now, that’s all folks.

Jamie x

Hey guys and gals and happy Friday! This week has been pretty chaos what with graduation and getting ready for the big move and so I haven’t had a lot of time to reflect on my time in Crete. I wanted to share with you what I got up to and some top tips I picked up whilst over there. Now I’m going to be a fully functioning adult with a job and everything, I hope that I’ll be travelling a lot more and so the beautiful island of Crete is the first of a new series: The Traveller Diaries. So, let’s get started shall we?

Key Facts

Name: Makry Gialos, a small town on the south-eat coast of the island of Crete.

Population: Just over 4000.

Time Difference: +2 hours BST

Currency: Euros

Price: £-££

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 Accommodation

We stayed in a lovely villa called Athena Villa, a name we soon learnt was foreign to the locals! It was lovely and quiet, had a pool and 3 decent size bedrooms. The villa itself was very affordable, however, there was a slight catch in that it was a good hours walk away from any signs of life. Luckily taxis were pretty reliable (not to mention to drivers are super friendly – shoutout to my main man George) but they were certainly not cheap, starting at about €8 to get into the village.

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If I was to go again I would still choose to stay a little further out – the picturesque views and the luxury of a private pool made it worth while. However, when sorting out your spending money, do keep in mine that you will have to pay for taxis if you decide to do this.

If you fancy something a little closer to the action then there is plenty to choose from! The harbour and village have loads of hotels and apartments that were relatively quiet during our time there. If you don’t mind sharing a pool, I would recommend checking out Villa Village. The staff are lovely and they host Greek party nights and quiz nights that are full of locals. It’s also right in the centre of both the village and the harbour so it is perfect if you’re wanting to explore the area and not have to be relying on taxis.

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Weather

We’ve been having lovely weather in England this summer (shocking, I know!) so I was already stocked up on sun cream, which was lucky as Crete reached temperatures of 30+ degrees! The weather was lovely for the most part but I can’t ignore the horrendous wind and mild earthquake we had there.

For a large part of the holiday, it was windy during the day. When I say windy I mean struggling to walk without being blown over windy. We did also have an earthquake. To be fair I thought was just the result of my having one too many cocktails. However, those sober enough to actually experience it were a little shook up. The locals, of course, were totally fine but it was a bit different for us Brits.

Don’t let the wind out you off, it was lovely when it calmed down, but just be aware that during this time of year they do get some pretty bad winds.

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Food and Drink

The food and drink was fantastic – some of the best food I have had abroad, on par with Lagos last year (and super affordable). We quickly learnt that eating out is a hell of a lot cheaper than eating in, as the supermarkets are very pricey. However for seafood and local meats, cheeses and fruit, it’s very cheap (sometimes even free). I would highly recommend starting with a Greek salad (the feta is incredible!) and giving Moussaka a go – it’s a Greek speciality of lamb mince, aubergine and cheese and it’s so delicious! The seafood is also fab – Hari’s Tavern was particularly good for this, as were many of the restaurants on the harbour.

In terms of drinks, you will probably be given a fair few free shots of Raki. I can confirm that it is vile! However, the cocktails are very good. The sunset cafe on the harbour has a huge selection and they’re all fab (I’m partial to a Pina Colada and a San Francisco) and Olympia, which is just a short walk away, have some amazing cocktails. I’d recommend the White Star (vodka, baileys and vanilla ice cream – delicious). If you don’t venture to the harbour but rather chill in the village, the Fisherman’s Bar does a great one called Mutilated Mackerel that tastes like a naughty chocolate milkshake.

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Entertainment

It might seem like this little island is for chilling and not a lot else but I can assure you that it definitely is not. As mentioned above, Villa Village (attached to the Fisherman’s bar) hosted a Greek night with live music and traditional Greek food. It was such a fantastic evening packed full of locals and us tourists alike. I enjoyed a couple of cocktails, a lot of Greek salad and a lesson in Greek dancing. I’m not sure how regularly these are hosted but if you get the chance to go I would seriously recommend it – for €15 per person it’s an absolute steal!

If you like your water sports you’re also in luck as the island has loads you can get up to. We tried our hand at jet skiing courtesy of George’s Water Sports located in the centre of the beach, which was loads of fun (although a little expensive at €25 for 10 minutes!). We also went out kayaking with Cretan Trails , which was without a doubt my favourite part of the holiday. It’s a 5 hour trip where you visit 5 different beaches with the kindest tour guide called Tony. You get lunch (with olives from his grandmothers garden of course) and an endless supply of fresh fruit and water. It was such a fantastic experience that I would whole heartedly recommend. At €60 per person, for everything that was included, it’s a super affordable day trip. I absolutely loved it!

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I really enjoyed my time in Crete. I’m usually more of a city holiday girl but I was pleasantly surprised with how much was going on there that kept me busy. I took €320 worth of spending money, which was definitely not enough for the 10 days we were there! In hindsight I probably could have done with €400+, which would make it a very expensive holiday. As mentioned, the villa was reasonable but the flights were steep so it worked out at £700 for 10 days with transfers both ways from the airport. Adding spending money on top of that, it came to £1000. This is definitely more than I would have liked to have spent but I think you could get it a lot cheaper with a bit more forward planning (we were very very last minute) and so clever date choices. I’d recommend Makry Gialos to people looking for a relaxing holiday  with a chance to get to know the locals and explore the quaint town and beautiful beaches. I think it’s he perfect place for families and those looking for a quieter holiday whilst still being able to try new things and experience a new culture to the fullest.

So that’s that! I hope you enjoyed the first ever Traveller Diaries. Stayed tuned as in the next few months Dublin will be making an appearance and possibly another European city a little closer to the new year. Where have you guys been on your summer holidays? Let me know in the comments below. Until next time.

Jamie x 

 

 

 

Hey guys and happy Friday. I am currently sunning myself up in Crete enjoying my first summer of freedom from academia. This can only mean one thing… I can finally start reading for fun again! Doing a degree in history has meant that over the past 3 years I have read a lot but, as gripping as The Communist Manifesto is, I have had very little time to read for enjoyment. As a kid reading was one of my favourite things and I could easily get through 2 books a week. Over the past 3 years, however, I am lucky if I have been able to get through 2 books a month – if that! Terrible, I know. Anyway, I have made it my mission this summer to get back into reading so I thought I would share with you guys 10 books that have made it onto my summer reading list and should definitely be on yours as well. 

10 Books to put on your Summer Reading List 

1. ‘Everything I Know About Love’ by Dolly Alderton
If you read last weeks blog post you’ll know that I have had this book on my reading list for some time. A memoir from The Sunday Times’ former dating columnist, ‘Everything I Know About Love’ covers Alderton’s experiences of relationships – the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s meant to be a super inspirational read that tells a story of self love and confidence.
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2.‘Lullaby’ by Leïla Slimani

This book was recommended in Cosmopolitan’s Best Summer Reads for 2018 and sounds like it is going to be right up my street. It tells the story of Myriam and Paul who find Louise to au pair their two young children in their chic apartment. The relationship takes a turn for the worse and jealously, resentment and suspicion starts to emerge. I’m thinking murder, affairs and other juicy stuff that will make for a great read.

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3. ‘Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine’ by Gail Honeyman

I’ll be honest, this is not necessarily a book I would normally go for but I have seen so many bloggers sing its praises that I thought it would be rude not to give it a shot. It tells the story of the life of Eleanor Oliphant. It’s won a lot of awards and is apparently soon going to be on the big screens under direction of Reece Witherspoon so it definitely earns a spot on the list.

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4. ‘Me Before You’ by JoJo Moyes  

I know, I know, this is not a new book but I have heard this is a fantastic read and Moyes has recently brought out a third instalment to the series, which also looks fantastic. My Mum isn’t a huge reader but she read this and adored it so it must be good. I don’t usually like watching the film before I read the book but I adored this film and really want to give this book a go. Don’t worry, I’ll have the tissues ready!

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5.‘The Outsider’ by Stephen King
I absolutely love Stephen King as a writer and definitely want to give this new one a go (although it might not make for good bedtime reading). This book follows the story of a man defending his innocence against evidence that he has assaulted and murdered a young boy. Apparently the book is full of nods to current events and the ever growing conversation surrounding abuse, consent and the Black Lives Matter movement.
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6. ‘The Woman in the Window’ by A. J. Finn

This book is giving me some serious ‘A Girl on the Train’ vibes and I loved that book! Following the life of Anna Fox who hasn’t left her house in 10 months and watches the world go by from the window of her New York town house (house envy, right?). When the Russell’s move in next door, she begins assessing and observing them, and one evening witnesses something no one was suppose to see… Sounds good doesn’t it?

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7. ‘The Mars Room’ by Rachel Kushner

Rachel Kushner has a very impressive resume, been nominated for the National Book Award Twice (keep in mind she has garnered this after only publishing two books – pretty good right?). 2 nominations can’t be wrong so I have decided that ‘The Mars Room’ deserves a spot in my top 10. The book tells the story of a mother serving two life sentences for the murder of her stalker, which sounds like a pretty good read to me!

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8. ‘The Vogue Factor’ by Kirstie Clements

I have actually read this book already, however, I had to mention it because I really think it deserves a spot on your summer reading list! Ex-Editor of Vogue Australia writes about her experience in the world of high fashion and magazine journalism. It is super honest, witty and inspiring, raising a lot of issues with the industry and well as the incredible opportunities that come with it. I would seriously recommend giving it a go.

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9. ‘The Perfect Stranger’ by Megan Miranda

Another mystery book, ‘The Perfect Stranger’ tells to story of old friends Leah and Emmy who move to Pennsylvania for a fresh start. When a women with a freakish resemblance to Leah is assault and Emmy disappears, Leah joins forces with Detective Kyle Donovan (potential or a bit of romance?) to investigate Emmy’s life.

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10. ‘Emma in the Night’ by Wendy Walker

Just in case it hasn’t been made obvious so far, I like a good mystery book. ‘Emma in the Night’ tells the story of two sisters who goes missing. One returns, one does not until 3 years later. Her story is meant to be pretty shocking and full of drama. I’m intrigued…

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So there you go, 10 books that are on my summer reading list and I think you need on yours. Let me know your recommendations and what you think of these if you give any of them a go. If you want some more suggestions I would recommend visiting some of these links – they have loads of fab suggestions whatever you fancy!

‘Best New Books for Summer 2018’ – Cosmopolitan

’20 Smart Books You Will Want to Read at the Beach’ – Esquire

’25 Best Books For Summer 2018′ – Good Housekeeping

’10 Best New Novels for 2018′ – The Independent 

Happy reading guys and gals. 

Jamie x 

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.Happy Tuesday guys and gals. As you know, here on my blog I do not shy away from awkward or taboo topics. We talk about vaginas, periods, libido – anything and everything! Anyway, today I wanted to talk about another topic that does not receive enough attention – The Orgasm Gap. What is the orgasm gap I hear you ask? Well, let’s look to the 2009 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour shall we? In 2009 the survey revealed 
 that men are more likely to orgasm than women – tell us something we don’t know!
Statistics have varied a lot, with one study revealing that 91 percent of men and only 39 percent of women always or usually orgasm during sexual encounters. Others have been a little more optimistic but the long and short of it is straight women are not having as many orgasms as they should. Not only is there a gap in how often women are having orgasms but there is also a huge gap between male perceptions and reality (again, this is no surprise really is it?). Eighty-five percent of men said their partners in their recent sexual encounter had reached climax – a far higher than the percentage of women who said they orgasmed. Awkward.
 
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So why is it happening and what can we do about it? 
The female orgasm. Type it into google and you will see 100’s of articles trying to justify why the gap exists. The female orgasm is an elusive phenomena that is difficult to achieve – don’t worry lads, it’s not your fault. Hmm, really?  It’s easy to fob it off as a near impossible task for men, however, one study revealed that when masturbating, 95 percent of women reach orgasm easily and within minutes. Looks like you’re going to have to up your game boys. The orgasm is not elusive for a woman when she is on her own. Nor is it elusive when two women are together as research has shown that lesbians are more likely to orgasm that heterosexual women, with up to 86 percent of lesbian women reporting orgasms during every sexual encounter. So why are heterosexual women missing out? 

When I think about the pretty pathetic sex education that was provided to me at school, it really does not surprise me that the orgasm gap exists. Back in the day (when I say ‘the day’, I mean pre-Enlightenment days – yes, I did a history degree) it was believed that for a child to be conceived both the man and the woman had to reach their climax. Now I sadly don’t have any statistics for early modern female orgasms, but I can imagine they were a lot higher than now. In our current education system, pleasure takes a back seat, especially for the woman. Sex education completely ignores the clitoris, teaching only about women’s internal organs. We therefore have to look elsewhere for sex education and we all now that these other sources are not exactly the most accurate and would definitely not be AQA approved.

It is therefore assumed that a couple of thrusts and a woman will be on cloud nine, which is really not the case. You can’t just shove a penis in there and hope for the best. The is an incredible short sighted approach to intercourse. The mentality of ‘scoring’ when you have sexual intercourse gives to false idea that intercourse is the best way for both parties to be pleasured. This is so far from the truth. Remember that scene in FRIENDS where Monica teaches Chandler about the 7 (yep, 7!) pleasure points on a woman? Slow and steady wins the race guys. Learn from Monica, she knows what she’s talking about. 

The main problem is that the conversation is deemed as taboo, however, it is such an important conversation to have and we need to begin closing the gap. Female masturbation is not discussed nearly as openly as male masturbation. Yes, we have seen an increase in women openly talking about their sexual needs in recent years but the truth it, female masturbation is still something that is frowned up. We don’t talk about it and therefore it follows that we do not have to see it as important. By not having the conversation we are undermining the female need for pleasure.
Closing the orgasm gap is important for equal access to pleasure. Sexual pleasure is about more than having an orgasm, it is a empowering symbol of appreciation and respect and allows for better communication. The lack of education is merely reinforcing gender stereotypes about female passivity and it is not healthy. We therefore need to close the orgasm gap, not only for equality in the bedroom but equality in all aspects of life. 
Jamie x