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How #GIRLBOSS changed my outlook.

It may have been two weeks since the Cosmopolitan Self Made Summit but, yes, I am still going on about it. For that, I do not apologise. I took so many lessons from the day, far beyond simply lessons in business. In the goodie bag at the end of the day we got given to book #GIRLBOSS, written by Sophia Amoruso the founder and CEO of Nasty Gal. I have wanted to read this book for ages but never had the chance. I started it on the train back from London, by the time I got home I had finished it with a completely new outlook. I know what you’re thinking, bloody hell, Jamie can read fast, yes that is true. You’re probably also thinking that I am being super cringe saying that a book changed my outlook but it 100% did and here’s why.

Not only did the book teach me a hell of a lot about what it takes to make it (and survive) in the world of business, it also taught me a hell of a lot about life. I am a bit of a perfectionist, which is a good thing in some respects, but it also means I don’t allow myself to slip up. If I make mistakes I can’t accept them and move on – they take over my life. I stress and I think I am either a failure or a terrible human being. This book taught me that, actually, we all cock up – both in our careers and in life. We are going to make mistakes and we are going to do things that aren’t necessarily ‘good’. This doesn’t make us bad people, this makes us human. It’s about how we learn from our cock ups and how we do not let them define us. Not only is this resilience vital in the world of work but it is also pretty important in day to day life. I’m an over-thinker and any thing I do that doesn’t quite fit with this idea I have of being ‘perfect’ leads to a lot of self hatred – THIS IS NOT HEALTHY. Yes, this is not going to go away by reading a book but do not underestimate the power of knowing you’re not the only one who has done shitty things or made mistakes. Everyone has and that doesn’t mean you’re not a good person and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re not a #GIRLBOSS.

Next lesson: Shitty jobs might just be the secret to success. Hear me out on this one… Remember my Cosmo Self Made Summit post? (If not, read it!!) Remember the stars and needing to get enough stars in order to see the constellation? That is exactly why it is okay to not love everything. A lot of people say you should not waste your time with things you don’t enjoy, but I don’t believe it is a waste of time. I think being open to things you don’t enjoy helps you to grow as a person and means you pick up new life lessons. You can’t be top dog straight away – you have to hustle. 

Finally, I AM THE ANTIFASHION, a chapter in the book, really hit home. I’ve never really fit in. I’ve tried bloody hard but this has left me sad, unaccomplished and pretty lonely. What #GIRLBOSS taught me was that it is okay to be a bit of a weirdo. In fact, it’s a lot more than okay, it’s pretty vital. ‘You’ is good and ‘you’ is what makes you different to everyone else. It’s okay to look like a bit of an idiot sometimes and it’s okay not to do what everyone else is doing. If you follow the same path as everyone else you will never reach your goals. Be weird and embrace it!! 

Since reading this book I have felt so motivated and ready to take on the world. So watch this space because this #GIRLBOSS is ready for the hustle. 

Jamie x

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Cosmopolitan’s Self Made Summit 2017

If you follow me on Instagram, or twitter, or any form of social media really (I have been going on about it a fair bit…), you’ll know that yesterday I went to Cosmopolitan’s first ever Self Made Summit. The event was aimed at helping aspiring bloggers, business women, or anyone just looking for a change of career, find inspiration from those who have been there and done it for themselves. 6:50 this morning, I was up and on the train to London, ready for a full day of fashion, business and social media antics. The event was absolutely incredible and I left feeling completely inspired. I also left with a cracking goodie bag (check out my Instagram story today to see what stuff I got), my hair done (for free!!) and a tummy full of food and drink. Hats off to Cosmo for pulling off such a well organised and informative event. I want to use this blog post to share with you some of the lessons I took from today and a few of the highlights.

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I started off in a talk about the power of social media and how it can be used to launch a brand, whether that brand be a product or whether that brand is you. The fantastic Alice Liveing (Clean Eating Alice) and Louise Pentland (Sprinkle of Glitter) were just a few of the inspirational faces on the panel. I am a huge social media fan and so this talk was a must. The key lesson I took away from this session was authenticity.

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All the speakers agreed that there has to be a reason behind what you’re doing beyond simply making money. If used correctly, as these people have, social media is a great tool for education and a creative outlet for you to share your journey with others. Another really key lesson for me was being confident with your language on social media. As someone who suffers from anxiety, I struggle a lot with this and tend to find myself constantly looking for assurance when online. It is super important to be confident and assertive with your content. It is yours after all and you need to be authentic to you. Would Beyonce apologise for her Instagram picture? No she most certainly would not! 

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Next up was a talk about developing your blog into a brand. Once again, I listened to some incredible women who I have watched on YouTube and followed on Instagram and who have inspired my journey. A key lesson to take from this was to be yourself. The number of people on social media is mad and so, in order to make yourself stand out, it is really important your personality shines through. There is no point trying to copy someone else as that isn’t you. Success comes from individuality, dedication and, once again, authenticity.

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Finally, my last talk was giving by Stella Creasy (MP), Marcia Kilgore (Founder of Soap and Glory, Beauty Pie and FitFlop) and Louse Pentland. I took a huge amount from this that really inspired me going into the networking session. Imagine you’ve got a sky. You want to put as many stars in that sky as possible. You might not love every single star, but one day they will all come together and you’ll see the constellation. In less metaphorical language, you’re not going to love everything but everything is adding to your networking and helping to build you as a person. The good, the bad and the ugly – they all make up who you are. Another key piece of advice, and something I think is difficult when starting out, is to remember it’s not all about you. It’s about what you want to change and having an awareness of the bigger picture as well as a self awareness.

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I would like to end with a quote from my absolute favourite speaker of the day. Starting off in Hooters, Katharine Ryan has taken to British comedy world by absolute storm. Her talk was honest and inspirational and really made me consider my priorities and outlook (Cringe but true). She reminded us that, it’s okay to be vulnerable and still be a #GIRLBOSS (a book I read on the train back and absolutely adored!!). A final word I think we can all benefit from, whatever out journey, and certainly something I will take with me into the gym, my work and this blog – ‘never expect to be good at something right away.’ 

Jamie x

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