I want to talk about Vaginas. I write about health, fitness and beauty. I write about mental health and well being. I even write about periods. But today, my lovely readers, today I want to talk about vaginas. First things first, let’s get it out of your system. VAGINA. V-A-G-I-N-A. Had you’re little awkward giggle like you’re still in year 7? Good, now let’s get down to the nitty gritty. As someone who writes a lot about body positivity, I neglect the poor vagina and so I have decided it’s time for that to change. It’s a part of my body after all and I am sure it is part of a lot of your bodies as well and it’s time it got a bit of love.
I want to talk about a few Vagina related topics today. 1) The stigma surrounding the vagina. 2) Unrealistic expectations and 3) Looking after your vagina. So sit back and enjoy.
Butterfly cakes or vagina cakes?!
The Stigma Surrounding the Vagina.
Vagina is not a dirty word. Your vagina is just a part of your body and yet society use it in an array of derogatory ways. First up, an alternative name for a vagina is probably one of the most offensive words in the english language – so bad, I have never and will never say it. The use of that word is arguably the worst offensive you can hurl at someone and if you’re not using that the other alternative, pussy, is not a lot better. Yes, yes, I know that dick isn’t exactly great but pussy, really? The connotations are of weakness and it is commonly used to put a man down. Putting a man down by likening him to a women and implying a passivity, something that is common amongst other offensive slurs. From the off, vaginas are a term of offence you do not want to be associated with – not a good start. Let me go on. As if it wasn’t bad enough that your vagina is used as a term of offence and weakness, you better make sure that thing is hair free because heaven forbid a fully grown person has pubic hair. I mean, it’s not like the male genitalia is hairy, right? Oh wait, it is. Would I expect a man to shave for me? Nope. And yet I shave my vagina just to make sure it isn’t offensive to anyone. You have hair on your vagina for a reason. It protects your private parts and if you don’t want to shave that off then bloody don’t. Lastly, what’s the issue with masturbation? It might surprise people to hear but, just like a penis does not require a vagina for pleasure, a vagina doesn’t require a penis. In fact, studies show that it can do a lot better without them. VAGINAS ARE NOT WEAK. VAGINAS HAVE HAIR. PEOPLE WITH VAGINAS MASTURBATE.
‘Popping your cherry’. Something I was terrified about for years. I was terrified about ‘losing’ my virginity, as if it was what kept me honourable and to give it away was to give away a part of me. This wasn’t even just the media that told me this, SCIENCE told me this and what a load of rubbish it was. Bloody hell, I was terrified when I lost my virginity I was going to be in crippling agony, bleed all over the place and never feel the same again. I can in fact reveal, none of the above happened – unrealistic expectation number 1. The next unrealistic expectation is that all vaginas are neat and pretty and look the same. Just like penis’s, we are all different and that is absolutely fine. Let’s be honest, it’s not like penis’s are exactly a tidy work of art so who cares if your labia are a little longer than you expected? Your vagina is not there to please other people or be aesthetic. Whatever your vagina looks like, love and respect it just as you would any other part of your body. So how so we do this?
Looking after your Vagina
Because of all the stigma surrounding the vagina, it can be difficult to know how to look after it properly. Let me tell you, it does not include the new vag makeup that is on the market – why would you want highlighted labia anyway? Here are just a few little tips to help you look after the land down under.
First up, ditch the douch (in every sense of the word, if you know what I mean) . Your vagina is actually able to clean itself. Yes, it might not come with it’s only built in cotton candy scent but I’ve got news for you. Intravaginal hygiene products can actually put you at increased risk of infections, pelvic inflammatory disease, and STDs.
Okay, now the next thing might not sound all that romantic but bear with me – order your sex life. Because what says sexy more than whipping out the evening agenda mid thrust? I know, I know. It’s actually really important for lots of reasons. First up, lubrication. You dry vagina during sex is not going to be pleasurable for one but it can sometimes cause abrasions. That agenda is sounding a lot sexier now, right? Also, if your sex life also involved anal, make sure that you are changing the condom if going from anal to vaginal sex. The condom can hold a lot of bacteria and cause some pretty nasty infections. Not exactly a turn on…
It wouldn’t be a Jamie Lee Jenkins Fitness post without a bit of fitness in there and actually, fitness can be really helpful for your vagina. Well, more specifically your pelvic floor but still… Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles is absolutely crucial for anyone with a vagina. Strong pelvic muscles are crucial for bladder control and, according to Women’s Health, mind-blowing orgasms. Who knew?
Last from me today and something that you have probably seen a lot of on social media in the form of the smear campaign, make sure you’re going for frequent check ups. It’s really important and if you are over 25 you can get a smear test. Also, if you’re worried about anything or have any questions, don’t be embarrassed. Speak up.
So there you have it. My little exploration of the land down under. Vaginas are nothing to be ashamed of and ending the stigma I hope will lead more people to feel they can seek help if it is needed without any shame or embarrassment. Ending vagina shaming could save lives. Anyway, I’ve off to the gym to do some hip thrusts, for bladder control… obviously.