Hey guys. So tomorrow marks a pretty big day for me. I’m currently sat in my University bedroom I moved into yesterday, writing this post, ready to start my last year as a History student at the University of Warwick. A lot has changed since this time last year. I’ve started my fitness journey and fallen in love with training (so much so I am training to become a Personal Trainer and am currently in the process of business planning), I’ve met loads of fantastic new friends, I’ve started a blog and YouTube channel, I’ve got two little puppies who I absolutely adore, I’ve scratched more places of my scratch map and my relationship has continued to grow. One thing hasn’t changed though. I still hate University. In fact, if anything, I hate it even more than I did at the start of last year.
I know how fortunate I am to be in a position where I could even consider going to University and I am grateful for the opportunity to try new things and find out more about myself. I haven’t, however, had the time of my life that I was sold. I’m not going to moan about University too much. I’ve done that plenty of times before and it really didn’t get me anywhere. What I am going to do is share with you guys some of my goals to make sure that this time next year I don’t look back on University in such a negative way. I know I’m never going to love University, but the least I can do is make the most of it for what it is. My fitness journey, as I said a few posts ago, has always been about a lot more than just lifting some weights. I want to be able to achieve total fitness – the mental as well as the physical – so these goals are going to be focused on (hopefully) improving both and encouraging growth.
‘Change your mindset, change your life’
1) Try something new every week.
I love trying new things but I’ve kind of got myself stuck in a bit of a rut at University just doing to same things over and over again. My goal for this year is to change that and to try something different. It could be a new sport or a new coffee shop, just something that takes me out of my comfort zone and adds a bit of excitement to my week. Next week I’ve signed up for women’s boxing on Tuesday. I’ve never done anything like this before and I’m going on my own which is a massive deal for me. I’m hoping that it might mean me finding a new hobby and maybe even some new friends. When I went to the Cosmopolitan event, Marcia Kilgore, the founder of Soap and Glory, said something that really inspired this goal. Imagine you’re going out in the hunt for stars and you want to collect as many stars as possible. These stars may be far apart but some will link and one day you will find your constellation. Basically, try new things, as much as possible (even if it doesn’t float your boat straight away) because you never know what star might just complete your picture.
2) Make time for food shopping.
This sounds pretty obvious but it is something I really neglect when I’m feeling a bit down. When things all get a bit too much, the first thing that seems to go out the window is doing a food shop. This leaves me hungry, grumpy and sad that I’ve not tracked my macros or not being able to track my macros because all I have in the cupboard is a tin of beans I got free on the first week. Since starting training and my nutrition course, I have become a lot better at this but now I’m back fending for myself it is something that I really can’t let slip. Food is so important and not eating just leaves me feeling even crappier about things than I did before. So, I’ve come prepared. I’ve got boxes for meal preparation, I have recipes I want to try and I have located to cheapest supermarket. My macros are set and ready to go and I am going to smash this goal this year.
3) Focus on the future but don’t forget the present.
Third year is the year for planning. Very soon I will be let loose into the big wide world and by then I want to have my business underway and know how I want to make it bigger once I’ve left University. It will also mean finding somewhere new to live. Sorry Warwick, but you’re not for me. But then, neither is Retford for the long term. Conor and I have been having a look and, dependent on where is recruiting for Police Officers, we’re hoping for Manchester/Liverpool way on. Can take the girl out of the North but you can’t take the North out of the girl. Whilst I have a lot of planning for the future to be doing, I also need to focus on being ‘present’. I’m guilty on being someone who doesn’t appreciate the present as I am too busy either worrying about the past or dreaming of the future. If I’ve learnt anything, the future is never what you plan it to be in your head. I’ve spent a lot of my life waiting for when it’s going to get better and I have actually missed a lot of the good stuff. It’s time to stop waiting for life to start. Life is happening, make the most of it.
4) Practise self love in all its forms.
I’ve said this for a while and now it is really time I started to practise what I preach. Self love is important but something I find really difficult and so, this year, I’m making it a goal. Self love comes in many different forms and I guess encompasses all of these goals but I’ve decided to set it as its own goal to remind me every day that I need to make time for myself. Nothing to do with the gym, or my degree, or anything with any pressure or expectations attached to it. This might be just running myself a bath and listening to some music. Moisturising everyday and deep conditioning my hair ever so often. Colouring in or practising mindfulness. I don’t know whether these will be up my street but I’m going to give them all a try. I will also be continuing with my counselling, something I debated giving up to make more time for my degree (ridiculous, I know!). I know this will be a tough goal but it’s definitely an important one.
5) Be Jamie.
Inspired by The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, my last goal for my final year at University is simply ‘Be Jamie’. It’s time to stop forcing myself to be something I’m not just to impress people. My mum always told me that I should be myself more often, because she’s lovely. I’ve always found that I’ve attracted people who I have very little in common with. I have forced friendships because that is what I thought I had to do. Truth is, there are plenty of people out there that would like me for me. I’m starting this year off with some of them. We’re heading out for food and drinks (something I haven’t done with friends for a while) and I’m really excited. There are lots of things I wish I was but I guess it times to accept that maybe I’m not. Maybe I’m always going to be a bit of a worrier, that might just be who I am. Maybe I’m not someone to go out clubbing with and get wasted. Maybe I’m not someone who is going to have a tidy bedroom. But that’s okay but for all the things I’m not, I’m a hell of a lot of other things. It’s time for me to make the most of them things and stop forcing myself into a mould I’m just not going to fit.
So there you have it, my final year goals that I hope will help me lead a more mentally fit life. I’ll keep you updated throughout the year on how I am finding these different goals, starting with a blog on boxing! What would your goals be?
Lots of love, Jamie x